Querida Consejera,
How can I get ahead at work in this country as an immigrant woman and mother, without feeling excluded or invisible? Sometimes it feels like no matter how much effort I put in, there are always barriers.
— Nazareth
Querida Nazareth,
Gracias por tu pregunta. Your feelings as an immigrant woman of being excluded or made to feel invisible are completely valid. Racism is being exposed in raw and painful ways and many of us are witnessing the targeting of individuals who came to this country fleeing violence and instability. Much of that suffering was created by policies in wealthier nations. This is a difficult and traumatic time and your emotional response makes perfect sense.
When we live under constant threat — whether because of our immigration status, our race or our background — our nervous system enters survival mode. This can look like confusion, anxiety, sadness or anger. What you are feeling is not weakness. It is a normal response to trauma.
It is essential to start by naming those feelings and allowing yourself to feel them. Healing begins with acknowledgment. From there we can begin to find our strength again.
Lean into your comunidad
You are not alone in feeling discouraged. I want to remind you of the power you carry and the support around you. Look to your comadres, your community, your school contacts, your coworkers and your children. Surround yourself with those who carry a “sí se puede” spirit and radiate alegría even during hardship. Remember who you are, even when the world tries to make you forget.
Self-care is essential. Regulating your body and mind can help you feel calmer and more clear. Try to breathe deeply, move your body, dance, write, take warm showers or talk to someone you trust. Name the fear and let it move through you.
If you are open to seeking outside support, you can call 211, a free service that connects you with health and mental health resources in your area. For emotional crisis support, you can call 988.
Find spaces where you are valued
It helps to find spaces where your full self is welcomed and respected. One organization I recommend is Prospera, based in Oakland. They work to break the isolation immigrant women often feel and support their leadership, creativity and growth through collective care.
Another great resource is PODER, based in San Francisco’s Mission District. They focus on immigrant rights, community education, and health justice. They also offer free and accessible office hours. You can find them online at podersf.org.
Reclaim your dreams
If part of what hurts is the feeling that your dreams are on hold, I want to gently remind you that you are needed. Your voice matters.
Your children are watching you even when you do not feel like a role model. Show them your strength by continuing to invest in yourself. Explore English classes, GED programs, community college, adult education, or digital skills workshops. Ask around. When we start knocking, doors open.
I hope these words offer comfort and direction. Please know we are with you. In moments of fear or isolation, choose the people and spaces that make you feel safe, proud, and powerful.
Stay close to those who lift you up and give yourself permission to walk away from anything that makes you feel small.
Sí se puede.
Con cariño,
Michelle Gutierrez
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- Share your struggles, questions, and information needs with other women like you.
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